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The Breakthroughs in Learning Blog
It is difficult to be positive when a child is struggling in school. The first assumption when a child is struggling in school normally has to do with effort: This student is not trying hard enough. Once reaching that conclusion, parents, teachers, and school administrators may take an approach of negative reinforcement and "discipline" to get the "lazy child" to work harder.
Have you ever told a lie or half-truth and then experienced the energy and focus it takes to remember what you said, and in what context, and why? It takes incredible strain to maintain all those details. Have you been in a relationship with someone who seems to be able to dramatize a story more with each time it is repeated? Have you tried to rationalize with someone who does not seem to have both feet in reality? Those scenarios all exhaust me and yet pull at my conscience a bit as I have experienced the truth of them personally and relationally.
Has your child or student ever been ready to just give up? Today was one of those days…
“Parents [or teachers] of a child with a memory for information deficit are often convinced the child is irresponsible, lazy or stubborn..." (Barbara Arrowsmith-Young)
We all respond and make decisions from belief systems often operating at the unconscious level. We look at situations in life through our belief systems, just like a pair of sunglasses. When we stop to examine the implications of this, it can be almost frightening. Where have I made assumptions or judgment calls unconsciously which have then clouded my future interactions with others? If we only look at behaviours, it’s easy to label a child with laziness, acting out, ignoring, bullying, fidgeting and distractibility as character traits. These labels do us and the child a great disservice by keeping us focused on the symptoms instead of looking for the root causes.
You won't find the word "flexabilities" in the dictionary, but if you parent or teach children with learning disabilities, you likely find it in your life, every day.
Today started out like any other day. I arrived at the office thirty minutes early. In the silence of an empty office, I prepared to meet a young boy (we’ll call him Nick) that I would be assessing. I laid out all my testing materials and paperwork and looked around. Satisfied with my preparations, I started on the mountain of paperwork that seemed to regenerate whenever I slept.
I sent my daughters off to their first day of school this week, what a wide array of emotions I experienced! I was excited, nervous, proud, unsure, confident and nostalgic too.
Do you remember your first day of school? My senses were overwhelmed with the feeling of new shoes and the weight of a back pack on my shoulders, the smell of the classroom, new books and paper, the bright colours of the new clothes. I can remember the nervous butterflies in my belly wanting so desperately to do well this year. Not just "Krystal well" but you know the recognized, "you did so well your classmates will think you are one of the smart ones" well. I remember the desire to fit in to the crowd, to feel like I mattered and to make a positive impact in the lives of those around me.